Don’t Rush to Fill the Void

We are in a time of endings and beginnings…and I find in our culture (and certainly for me) that when something ends, we feel the need to DO something else or have a plan for what’s next. Just think about it. How many times have you said: “I can’t quit this job and not have another one lined up”? As soon as you are let go from one job there is a rush to find another - even if you have plenty of savings and security. When we graduate from college or high school, the next steps need to be already set. Maybe for you, it happens in relationships - you can’t be without a partner or spouse. Also when people pass on, we often feel the need for life to go back to normal or move on quickly, but for most of us, that just isn’t possible. 

And the truth is sometimes we have to wait for the creative process to unfold and that takes time. Especially when you are growing, changing, and evolving. We are in just such a time! 

Last week, I spoke about this time period as a great transition. In the middle of it, we see and feel things not working, ending, slowing, crumbling in some cases, and yet the new things haven’t quite come into form yet. 

My message to you is DON’T FILL THE VOID. When something ends, let it go, allow yourself to grieve and be patient, and wait for the next right thing to emerge. If you do what might have worked in the past and rush to ‘fix’ the situation, you will be creating from an old paradigm - a limited framework. When you rush to make the next thing happen, you are creating something that is limited by your past experience. When things are status quo, that might be awesome, but our current world is changing so quickly and radically that you really want to be in a co-creative process with the universe to create the life/world that you have dreamt of! Which means you gotta do it differently! 

SO what do I suggest as the alternative….

WAIT - Although it might be difficult, wait for way longer than you think. Life and the creative process are not instantaneous. 

BE PATIENT AND BREATHE - Allow yourself all the time and support you need to process the emotions that come up when you are in the unknown - fear, anxiety, worry, regret, fear, and more fear.

GET CLEAR - Do your inner work - let go of the old frameworks, belief structures, patterns of behavior, and thought. Some tools that are helpful here include: meditation, journaling, breathwork, movement, toning, or sound work. You must let go of the old stuck energy and patterns, yours as well as all collective consciousness energies that you may be clinging to. 

STAY CONNECTED AND IN YOUR OWN ENERGY AND POWER - Commit to the things, activities, people, and experiences that allow you to thrive and experience JOY in every cell of your body. 

BE RECEPTIVE - You have to be open to receiving new information and new possibilities, so get those receiving muscles in tip-top shape.

ALLOW a new solution or new way or possibility to emerge. 

I know this waiting in the unknown is terribly uncomfortable - and growth is often uncomfortable, that’s why they are called growing pains :) And while it may feel like you have to wait a long time, in the grand scheme of life it just isn’t that long, and the payoff of experiencing life better than you imagined is worth it!!  

How do I know this is possible? Because when you create space and allow the universe/the creator to offer you more, show you more, or co-create a life experience, it will be MORE than you have experienced in your past. AND NOW we are in a time of GREAT POSSIBILITIES,  a time where really innovative change at every level is possible, so don’t limit yourself and don’t get sucked into the fear cycle of lack, loss, grief, and tragedy. Stay connected and open to all the beauty and all the joy that is in your life, and allow the time and space and freedom for the universe to give you more. P.S. Don’t forget to ask for it!!